Join host Nyomi Banks on The Season of Self-Love Podcast for a Wisdom Wednesday conversation with coach Jamie Lerner. Explore how community service becomes an extension of self-love, why you must fill your cup before giving to others, and how authentic service transforms both giver and receiver.

In This Episode:

• Why self-love must come before service to others
• The difference between giving from a full cup vs. an empty one

• How to find service opportunities that align with your authentic self
• Overcoming burnout and the "should" mentality in giving
• Jamie's powerful story about her mother and self-connection

About Jamie Lerner:

Jamie is a coach, connector, and lifelong advocate of living from alignment and purpose. She brings a beautiful perspective on how community service becomes an extension of self-love.

Key Insights:

Service Starts with Self-Love: "We need to be in a place where we are loving ourselves before we can authentically be in service to others. Once we're in that place, it never feels like service. It's just the natural extension of who we are.

"The Full Cup Philosophy:

• You can't give from an empty cup without resentment
• Receivers can feel when giving comes from someone who isn't full enough
• "Put your own mask on first"—but this is counterintuitive, especially for women
• Self-service first—it's a lose-lose when you don't

Jamie's Morning Practice:
First thing in the morning, identify one thing you appreciate about yourself—not what someone else appreciates, but what YOU appreciate about you for you.

When to Give:
 "When you are in alignment and feeling good about yourself, opportunities present themselves. Then we say yes—there's no hesitation. It's just a yes.

"The "Should" vs. "Could" Distinction:
Don't give because you think you should—that doesn't feel good. Give because you could and want to.Jamie's Personal Journey:Raised in Service: Grew up in a home where service was the foundation. Home always filled with people from all over the world. Parents' motto: "If there's a will, there's a way." Raised to feel it's a privilege to serve others.Why She Volunteers: "It almost feels selfish on my part. I'm getting so much out of it.

"Her Mother's Story:
Jamie had no emotional connection with her mother her entire life, despite being extremely connected to herself. When her mother was transitioning in the ICU, Jamie finally felt all the love pour through. Then her mother passed.Jamie realized: Her mother couldn't connect with her because she wasn't connected with herself. This became her book's message—connection with ourselves is the basis for every other connection.

Jamie's Superpower:
 Born with inner knowing and self-connection. "I was impossible to be influenced. I only heard the sound of my own voice." That self-connection is now her superpower.

Listener Q&A:
Q: How can I give back when I'm still healing myself? Jamie: "When you're still healing, giving back is maybe not the priority. Use that energy for yourself. Actually, the healing IS the giving back."

Q: What's something small I can do to make a difference? Jamie: "Just being present in anyone's space, you are making a difference. When you are present, that is such a present for others

."Powerful Truths:

• "Know yourself, trust yourself, love yourself—you are your own greatest resource."
• "Healing is not a destination—healing is an ongoing process."
• "We need to get back to trusting ourselves, knowing ourselves, loving ourselves. That's where it all is. There's nothing outside of us."

Nyomi's Insights:

• Bob Proctor quote: "I'm being me for me—not for my wife or children or the world, but me for me."
• Her therapist's advice: Don't fill your cup halfway—let it overflow so others receive your overflow
• On today's world: "Tap into the God within you. Outside of you, it's going to be crazy. Find the strength within you."

Perfect for listeners interested in: Service without burnout, self-connection, authentic alignment, overcoming the "should" mentality, self-love practices.

Connect with Jamie: www.jamie-lerner.com

November Theme: Giving Back: The Power of Service and CommunitySubscribe at theseasonofselflovepodcast.com or AskNyomi.com#ServiceAndCommunity #SelfLoveFirst #FullCup #Alignment #GivingBack #SeasonOfSelfLove


Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-season-of-self-love--6003379/support.

"Thank you for spending this time with me on The Season of Self Love. Remember, self-love isn't selfish – it's sacred. You are worthy of the love you so freely give to others.

If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs this reminder. And don't forget to rate and review the show – it helps us reach more beautiful souls.

Connect with me on Instagram @TheRealNyomiBanks and @TheSeasonofSelfLovePodcast
visit theseasonofselflovepodcast.com for resources and our downloadable workbook.

Until Monday – keep choosing YOU.
This is your girl, the goddess Nyomi Banks. Stay in your season."